i am doing something right after all.

i stumbled upon this blog post from my facebook feed. and after reading it, it felt like a pat on the back that i am doing something good for and to my boys.

Here’s the link: 25 rules for mothers of sons

25 rules for mothers of sons

it felt good that from the start, the things that i teach my boys were part of this list. to note a few:

– Be a cheerleader for his life
– Read to him and read with him.
– Teach him to have manners
– Let him ruin his clothes / Get Dirty
– Let him lose
– Answer him when he asks, “Why?”
– Always carry band-aids and wipes on you.
– Build him forts

and to add to my list, let him explore toys that girls play – cooking sets, dolls, etc. because eventually they’ll outgrow these and stick to cars, robots, trucks and blocks. toys are toys, they all make use of a child’s imagination. it will not dictate their gender preference when they grow up. (i grew up playing with boy’s toys, and here i am, a mother of 3.)

what comfort to know that i am indeed doing something right after all in the motherhood department. 🙂

my boys ❤

snaps: sharing is caring

this is what i treasure. days when they get along. 🙂

sharing is caring ❤

 

the downside of having kids aged 2 years apart is the constant bickering and fighting over toys. so this is a rare moment when they do get along.

it’s perfectly ok to make mistakes

day 26 of the 30 day blog challenge and a double post in 1 day

how do you explain to a child that it is ok to make mistakes? that from these mistakes, you become a better person? that mistakes are what makes us perfect?

i just got a message from my mom thru fb chat that k1, was low on self esteem. after their spelling drill and having difficulty in getting 2 words right, he blurted out that he was a loser, that he can’t get anything right.

it broke my heart to pieces.

on my part it felt like i did something wrong. that somewhere, i was the loser. i was crushed. but, i have to be the brave one, the one bearing the sunshine and happy thoughts. i’m just glad that mom was able to assure him that it was ok to make mistakes. that you don’t usually get things right the first time.

k1 and i will have another talk tomorrow morning before he goes to school. i think he needs all the self esteem boost not only from my mom but from me, his own mom. i’m the one assigned to make things better. and damn right i will make it better, for him. he may get the hard truth, but, he will for sure, understand. he’s smarter than what we think he is. all he needs is that loving assurance.

in retrospect, i wished my mom was like that to me when i was younger. i learned it the hard way and thru books.

snaps: father’s day

day 22 of the 30 day blog challenge

it’s just amazing that hubby spares his time to attend events such as these. and this means a lot to our kids, which he knows of course. he makes sure that in every special occasion, he’ll be there no matter what.

although late, happy father’s day!

hubby and his mini-me ❤

snaps: my funny little boys

day 20 of the 30 day blog challenge

my boys are seriously funny. let the photos tell their stories:

K1:
we watched toy story 3, ordered chips, popcorn and some potato wedges. he burned his tongue, as he was eager to eat. hence the face:

hot food!

k2:
i prepared spaghetti for the three for lunch. this little genius, didn’t like getting his shirt messy, so what he did:

his bib

not the usual bib. he even added clothespins!

k3:
his own version of planking, in reverse. and this is his usual hangout spot 🙂

reverse planking 🙂

linggo ng wika

day 15 of the 30 day blog challenge

i’m the excited mommy for k1 who’s going to celebrate his first linggo ng wika in school. costumes are ready. i’m not sure though if we can watch the performance but i’m sure k1 will have a blast. 🙂

and forgetful mom that i am, i totally forgot to buy him snacks to share. they were required to bring filipino food to share with the class. good thing we have pan de manila just downstairs. and cheese pan de sal to the rescue! (i’m counting that pan de sal is considered as pinoy food. LOL)

Attachment Parenting: 10 Phrases to make a better parent

day 10 of the 30 day blog challenge

like peanut butter to jelly 🙂

i was browsing though attachment parenting sites and found this site quite interesting. Attached Family. and resources about attachment parenting is quite interesting. i didn’t even realize that some parenting skills i had is based on attachment parenting.

(i for one, prefer to have my kids sleep in one bed with us for as long as possible, that’s how clingy i am to my kids).

anyway, sharing a few tips on how to be a better parent to our kids without being too negative:

10 Phrases to make a better parent

some snippets from the article:

INSTEAD OF: You’re a bad boy
TRY: What did you learn from this

this one helps a lot as it addresses the bad behavior and not telling the kid he’s the one who’s bad. helps also in making him think of what he did wrong.

INSTEAD OF: Oh no! Look what you have done!
TRY: It really won’t matter 5 years from now. I’ll show you how to fix it.

instead of showing the child that their efforts is near impossible, why not create some options or just help out?

or if all else fails, a hug or saying i love you is the best option. works everytime!

this is quite a fun read since, i love being hands on with my kids. raising them on my own beliefs and strategies and not just some traditions and old wives tales. it also helps that it fosters critical thinking for the kids at an early age. i am also a firm believer in independence, in trying out things before you decide if you like it or not – making decisions on your own and owning up to mistakes if that decision didn’t give positive results.

and so far, the kids have been doing well, in terms of independence. it’s the mom, who’s having a hard time letting go. 😛

a little reward never hurt

day 6 of the 30 day blog challenge

one form of motivation that we implement in our house to get the kids encouraged to study is giving rewards. but our rewards are given on the condition that they get a perfect score in their weekly tests or for good behavior.

good job!

now, before some parents here would shake their heads and say, we put too much pressure on our kids to get perfect grades, let me make this clear that this condition was suggested by our son, K1. we sat down with him, asked him to get his reward, what does he need to do, is this a reward for good behavior? waking up early? finishing his milk, drinking it in a cup or eliminating the diaper at night(that’s another blog post). it was he who suggested that in order for him to get the best reward, he has to give us good grades.

so we agreed. we also give little rewards in terms of praises and words of encouragement for every good deed. such as turning off the light after going to the potty, helping their brothers out, packing away their toys (this merits the biggest praise of all especially if i don’t ask them to pack away their toys!)

and as of this writing, we’re on to the next list of rewards since k1 was able to give 12 perfect scores in his weekly tests. now all he needs is to wait for my mom to give him a new toy! 🙂 now hubby and i have to think a great reward for him too!

not following directions

ok, i fully admit that it was my fault why K1 wasn’t able to get a perfect score in his reading activity in school yesterday.

maybe i was tired from taking care of a sick hubby, rowdy 2 year old, jealous middle child and the basic demands of our household.

the assignment asked to provide 5 pictures of ANIMALS with medial vowel sounds. what did i do? i included FAN and PEN in the pictures when instead i should have provided pictures of a CAT and a HEN.

so i got an SMS from my mom saying K1 was devastated and disappointed because of the score he got, he was also worried that he won’t be able to get his happy slips* and lose his chance of collecting 10 slips and get his reward from my mom.

my fault son, i promise not to do this again. i shall follow instructions and read and remember them carefully.

now that’s a lesson in following directions. LOL

*happy slips are slips provided by the teacher for good behavior, following instructions, returning reply slips on time etc. basically being good in school.

mommy the worrywart

today was a worryfest. my mom just sms’d me that k1 isn’t home yet (time check 1:33pm). he’s usually home around 12:30 or earlier depending on the traffic. so i am now in major worry mode. i’ve sms’d the owner of their school bus service asking what’s the reason why he isn’t home yet. thank goodness she replies fast, i was informed that since classes was already suspended this 12 noon, they gathered all their wards for the morning shift and brought everybody home.

schoolbus
photo credit: the download page

but then, they have to battle with the traffic and the rain.

rainy day
photo credit: Fira Saturn

and now all i worry about is k1 not having his lunch yet, tired, hungry and sleepy from an early day in school. hopefully i get another sms before 2 telling me he’s home safe.

now i’m planning things he’ll pack for school in case situations like these happen again. aside from his usual morning snack, i think it’s best to include an “emergency” food stash in his lunch box in case he gets home after lunch.

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