i am doing something right after all.

i stumbled upon this blog post from my facebook feed. and after reading it, it felt like a pat on the back that i am doing something good for and to my boys.

Here’s the link: 25 rules for mothers of sons

25 rules for mothers of sons

it felt good that from the start, the things that i teach my boys were part of this list. to note a few:

– Be a cheerleader for his life
– Read to him and read with him.
– Teach him to have manners
– Let him ruin his clothes / Get Dirty
– Let him lose
– Answer him when he asks, “Why?”
– Always carry band-aids and wipes on you.
– Build him forts

and to add to my list, let him explore toys that girls play – cooking sets, dolls, etc. because eventually they’ll outgrow these and stick to cars, robots, trucks and blocks. toys are toys, they all make use of a child’s imagination. it will not dictate their gender preference when they grow up. (i grew up playing with boy’s toys, and here i am, a mother of 3.)

what comfort to know that i am indeed doing something right after all in the motherhood department. 🙂

my boys ❤

snaps: sharing is caring

this is what i treasure. days when they get along. 🙂

sharing is caring ❤

 

the downside of having kids aged 2 years apart is the constant bickering and fighting over toys. so this is a rare moment when they do get along.

it’s perfectly ok to make mistakes

day 26 of the 30 day blog challenge and a double post in 1 day

how do you explain to a child that it is ok to make mistakes? that from these mistakes, you become a better person? that mistakes are what makes us perfect?

i just got a message from my mom thru fb chat that k1, was low on self esteem. after their spelling drill and having difficulty in getting 2 words right, he blurted out that he was a loser, that he can’t get anything right.

it broke my heart to pieces.

on my part it felt like i did something wrong. that somewhere, i was the loser. i was crushed. but, i have to be the brave one, the one bearing the sunshine and happy thoughts. i’m just glad that mom was able to assure him that it was ok to make mistakes. that you don’t usually get things right the first time.

k1 and i will have another talk tomorrow morning before he goes to school. i think he needs all the self esteem boost not only from my mom but from me, his own mom. i’m the one assigned to make things better. and damn right i will make it better, for him. he may get the hard truth, but, he will for sure, understand. he’s smarter than what we think he is. all he needs is that loving assurance.

in retrospect, i wished my mom was like that to me when i was younger. i learned it the hard way and thru books.

snaps: father’s day

day 22 of the 30 day blog challenge

it’s just amazing that hubby spares his time to attend events such as these. and this means a lot to our kids, which he knows of course. he makes sure that in every special occasion, he’ll be there no matter what.

although late, happy father’s day!

hubby and his mini-me ❤

snaps: my funny little boys

day 20 of the 30 day blog challenge

my boys are seriously funny. let the photos tell their stories:

K1:
we watched toy story 3, ordered chips, popcorn and some potato wedges. he burned his tongue, as he was eager to eat. hence the face:

hot food!

k2:
i prepared spaghetti for the three for lunch. this little genius, didn’t like getting his shirt messy, so what he did:

his bib

not the usual bib. he even added clothespins!

k3:
his own version of planking, in reverse. and this is his usual hangout spot 🙂

reverse planking 🙂

linggo ng wika

day 15 of the 30 day blog challenge

i’m the excited mommy for k1 who’s going to celebrate his first linggo ng wika in school. costumes are ready. i’m not sure though if we can watch the performance but i’m sure k1 will have a blast. 🙂

and forgetful mom that i am, i totally forgot to buy him snacks to share. they were required to bring filipino food to share with the class. good thing we have pan de manila just downstairs. and cheese pan de sal to the rescue! (i’m counting that pan de sal is considered as pinoy food. LOL)

Attachment Parenting: 10 Phrases to make a better parent

day 10 of the 30 day blog challenge

like peanut butter to jelly 🙂

i was browsing though attachment parenting sites and found this site quite interesting. Attached Family. and resources about attachment parenting is quite interesting. i didn’t even realize that some parenting skills i had is based on attachment parenting.

(i for one, prefer to have my kids sleep in one bed with us for as long as possible, that’s how clingy i am to my kids).

anyway, sharing a few tips on how to be a better parent to our kids without being too negative:

10 Phrases to make a better parent

some snippets from the article:

INSTEAD OF: You’re a bad boy
TRY: What did you learn from this

this one helps a lot as it addresses the bad behavior and not telling the kid he’s the one who’s bad. helps also in making him think of what he did wrong.

INSTEAD OF: Oh no! Look what you have done!
TRY: It really won’t matter 5 years from now. I’ll show you how to fix it.

instead of showing the child that their efforts is near impossible, why not create some options or just help out?

or if all else fails, a hug or saying i love you is the best option. works everytime!

this is quite a fun read since, i love being hands on with my kids. raising them on my own beliefs and strategies and not just some traditions and old wives tales. it also helps that it fosters critical thinking for the kids at an early age. i am also a firm believer in independence, in trying out things before you decide if you like it or not – making decisions on your own and owning up to mistakes if that decision didn’t give positive results.

and so far, the kids have been doing well, in terms of independence. it’s the mom, who’s having a hard time letting go. 😛

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